It’s the middle of February, which means Valentine’s Day is upon us. Whether you celebrate Valentine’s Day or not, you’ve probably noticed the proliferation of pink and red briefly taking over the world (or at least the candy aisles). Since the focus of the holiday is supposed to be love, let’s talk about whether or not you need to love your job.
Well, you definitely don’t want to hate your job. If you’re working full-time, the better part of your waking workday hours are spent with colleagues, doing whatever job it is you do. If the work you do makes you miserable, that’s a surefire way to spend your days stressed and unhappy. Not good.
As a career advisor, though, I see a lot of people looking for work they love—work they feel excited about, work that makes them happy, work that doesn’t feel like work. “I want to love my job.” Sometimes the person I’m advising is trying to figure out how to start a career, and sometime they are trying to change careers after a decade or more in the workforce. My advice is always the same when someone tells me they want a job they love:
You need to like your job. You don’t need to love it.
It’s fine and totally, completely normal to want a job where you’re happy. A job you feel excited and passionate to do. A job where time passes enjoyably. The trouble starts when you want those things always. There’s a big difference between wanting to do work that excites you and wanting to do work where you’re never, ever, not for one single second bored. There’s a difference in wanting to do work that makes you happy and wanting to like—or love!—every little thing you have to do.
Wanting to love your job can set up some pretty unrealistic expectations and create dissatisfaction in an otherwise workable employment situation. No job is perfect. If you start looking for a new job every time you have to do something boring, you’ll run out of jobs to apply for quickly. Every job has a routine, and no matter how exciting everything is at first, eventually something you have to do will start to seem less appealing. There’s value in learning to be happy in a not-quite-perfect situation.
Am I saying you should stay in a job where you’re miserable? Absolutely not! My advice is to aim for a job that you like 80% of the time, and to make sure that the other 20% of the time is tolerable for you. You may not jump up Monday morning thinking, “Thank goodness the weekend is over! I get to go back to work!” But you don’t need to dread your job, either. Set reasonable expectations, and if your job is meeting your needs and not making you want to run screaming for the hills, you’re in a pretty good situation. When you do decide to move up or move on, you’ll be less likely to be bitterly disappointed when you find out your new job isn’t quite perfect, either.